HOW TO TRAVEL WITH A BABY

I've taken Trey with me on 6 flights so far, and 2 of those were three hour, solo trips. On those flights it's mostly a survival game and anything goes, really. But I wanted to share a few things I've learned along the way to make flying with a baby easier. (There are also a ton of helpful suggestions also in this post here from other veteran mamas on Instagram.)

On baby and child ID: TSA requires ID to get through security only at age 18 or older, but each airline has their own rules, and some require additional documentation to get your child a boarding pass. The airlines that we've flown with have required some form of birth date documentation, such as a medical paper from a doctor's visit, etc. Make sure you check or call ahead of time to find out what you'll need.

On the feeding plan: I'm exclusively breastfeeding, but Trey will take a bottle (thank the Lord) so I bring breast milk in a few bottles as well as my nursing cover to have both options. On some of my flights I've been able to nurse Trey (it's almost a guarantee that he'll fall asleep if he's tired while nursing) but sometimes, you happen to be solo and seated in a middle seat and nursing simply isn't feasible. For this reason, I bring a few full bottles and am always so glad to have them.

On breast milk through security. You can bring as much breast milk as you want through security, it's an exception to the liquids rule. They'll run it through the x-ray and open the bottles and test them again afterwards. Kind of a pain but worth it for me. I love our bottles (Dr. Brown's) but two points: make sure you remove the air vents prior to flying (both because of the altitude/pressure changes to prevent leaks, AND because they make you remove them to test them at security) and also make sure you follow the "max fill line" rule to prevent leaks as well. We've had no leaking issues since implementing those two things when flying.

On what gear to bring. When I flew solo with him, I had a connection, and I knew I needed the car seat and stroller at the gate in order to make it halfway across the airport by myself to my next flight. When you check your car seat/stroller at the gate on a connection, you can choose if you want to have it available at your layover, or if you want it to just stayed checked until you get off at your destination. I needed to have it at the halfway point and was glad I did. (This meant I didn't need a carrier, but if I did, I'd choose something easier to get on like the ergo over a wrap, I know some people who would say the opposite because the ergo is bulkier than a wrap, so it's totally personal preference. Besides the space issue, my other reason for not bringing a carrier is the "no baby wearing while take off/landing" rule, which is such a pain.)

On during the flight. I hesitate to say this publicly, but I think we might have an unusually easy baby. For all the flights I've taken him on so far, he hasn't cried once. He kind of fusses a little bit as he starts to either nurse or drink from a bottle, and then falls asleep and stays asleep for the rest of the flight. I think it might be a combination of the loud noise of the plane and the slight bumpy movements. He sleeps easily in cars too so that could have something to do with it. At first I was worried that his ears weren't popping with the altitude changes in take off and landing, and thought maybe I should wake him up to feed, but he's done that every time and been fine so I don't worry about it anymore.

On your SOS plan. If you're in that very last hour of your all day/cross country/solo travel trip and you're in that middle seat next and starting to kind of loose your mind, take your sleeping baby and go to the back of the plane. I know this is probably not safety protocol to be shared with the internet, but I stood in the back of the plane and chatted with the flight attendants for the last hour, and just bounced Trey while he slept, and the flight attendants gave me water and snacks and told me stories of when their babies were little. Sometimes you just need a change of scenery. Everyone (mostly) is so willing to help with a baby.

On not sweating the small stuff. Things likely will go wrong, as with all of life. In that same solo travel trip that was kind of a circus, I managed to forget documentation for Trey AND I left all the bottles at security after screening. It all worked out, I was able to provide other documentation and they called me back over the intercom to retrieve the bottles. All fine in the end. Same with my friends who have babies who scream on planes; they remind me that it's likely you'll never see any of those people ever again, AND they were all babies once too. People, generally, get it. I feel like it's more tense for us than it is for them. Having a level headed perspective helps.

Suitcase pictured is Away, featuring an unbreakable outer shell, organized interior pockets, a TSA approved lock, and a USB charger (SO helpful in crowded airports, no more waiting for an outlet to become available to charge your phone). Size pictured is the carry-on.

Shared in partnership with Away.

BABY SHOES

Now that cooler temps are here, I'm so glad to have warm booties for Trey to wear during the winter. Highlighting some warm ones and other teeny tinys today.

Clockwise from L to R

Tane Organics. Fair trade, hand knit, fleece lined, so soft.

Donsje Booties. Love these. Leather outside, fleece inside, and hand made.

Freshly Picked. A classic, these stay on thanks to the elastic design.

Donsje, in a different color combo. You can also buy their laces individually too to create new looks.

Pediped. A soft soled line, designed to help with learning to walk. They released a special edition earlier this week, details here.

OUR TOP 10 MOST USED BABY ITEMS 0-3mo

Like most first-time moms, I got everything when I was preparing to have a baby (see a lengthy list here of all we registered for).

It felt nice to have the "best of" in every category, but I also knew that it was probably a bit excessive and I didn't really need every single thing. Sharing today what we actually used those first three months, and what we could have done without.

LIFESAVERS

1. DockATot. Full disclosure here: this company reached out to me to test their product. At the time, I had every single possible "baby placement" option available: a bassinet, a Moses basket, a crib, a mamaroo, a bouncer, blankets for days, etc., and I really didn't need anything else. The only reason I agreed is because I had a friend who loved hers, and I am so glad I tried it. We use it everyday. Trey sleeps in it every night and takes all naps in it as well. It's portable, washable, lightweight, great for travel, I could go on and on. Trey was a noisy baby so our baby sleep arrangement was placing him in this just outside our bedroom door, and eventually we started placing him in the DockATot in his crib. Easiest transition ever. This product gets the most use of any baby product we own and I recommend it all the time.

2. Little Unicorn Swaddles. The deluxe bamboo ones are the softest. I love the size, how lightweight they are, the price point for the quality, and the millions of uses. Next time, I would go for colors, not white, because I store them unfolded in bins and sometimes I grab a burp cloth instead of a white blanket and vice versa.

3. Swaddles with velcro closures. I liked the Nuroo for when Trey was a newborn (maybe 7-10 lbs, in the smallest pocket) because it was easy and soft, and then the Ollie was great once he was a bit bigger.

4. MyMilkies Soft Cloths. We use these every day. Love the small size and how soft and absorbent they are. (We also have these flat folds for burp rags that are classic and budget friendly)

5. Covered Goods Nursing Cover. Trey doesn't love nursing under it, so in public I default to a bottle (which works great and is actually much more convenient). But the amount of times we've used it as a stroller/car seat cover to block the sun has earned it's spot on this list. (Our car seat even has a partial shade cover so I assumed I wouldn't need to use it like this, but the coverage with this one is much better.)

6. Keekaroo Changing Pad. I've never had to wash a single changing pad cover in my life because of this product. Brilliant.

7. Gathre Mats. We use the midi size everyday, it's our "play mat" and extra bonus that it's super soft and wipeable (so helpful with all the drool/spit up during tummy time). I also like the smallest size as a travel changing pad and the largest size as a picnic blanket.

8. Nursing: I didn't realize how much of new baby life revolves around feeding. Encompassing a bunch of items here: I love these bras, these nursing pads, this pump, and these milk storage bags.

9. Nursery Works Empire Rocker. I spend a lot of time nursing here and love it. I don't think there's anything special about this one, and have even seen some cool DIYs out there, but it's been helpful to have a designated, comfortable place for nursing. (Someone asked if I was nervous about having a light color, and I LOVE it, it hides spit up/nursing stains very well.)

10. Nuna Car Seat and Stroller. They've both been a great. So glad I have the lightest car seat on the market since Trey is a chunk.

(Honorable mentions: this crib, Ergo, and Solly.)

Favorite clothes for baby in this post here.

WHAT WE DIDN'T GET/DON'T USE

Moses basket (I had every intention of using this and just defaulted to the DockATot every time), bassinet (same), wipe warmer, crib bumper (I heard they're not recommended anymore because of the SIDS risk), breathing monitor (never bothered with it), pacifiers (he liked these at one point but currently doesn't, each baby is different so for some this is a must have), bottle sanitizer, all the plain white onesies (totally personal preference, I just like him to wear my favorite things since he's flying through sizes), baby stain remover and baby laundry soap (regular stain remover and regular laundry soap works great, I've also heard dish soap works in a pinch).

I could go on forever about the millions of products that are out there and marketed as "must haves" but you don't really need. I've said it a thousand times, but each baby really is SO different, and what works for one family doesn't work for another, so this list may or may not make sense for you. With babies, you just have to try things and tweak as you go along. We're all still figuring it out.

Photo: Jon + Moch Photography